I get so frustrated when I see people who are (or at least look) "frum", but they behave badly in public. For instance, if someone is traveling by public transportation and s/he holds the door for a friend during the morning rush hour, at the same time as the driver/conductor/whatever is specifically requesting that the doors be allowed to close. Now, they may say, "But everyone holds the doors once in a while! What's the big deal?" Maybe they don't realize, or maybe they don't care, but their actions reflect upon the entire Jewish people, and observant Jewish people in particular. Society holds us to a higher standard, and when certain members fail to meet that standard, it reflects badly upon us as a whole.
Still, perhaps such behaviors can be excused as "normal", the same way nearly everyone jaywalks in New York City--it's something that everyone does, and the cops can't even ticket you because it would be impossible to ticket every jaywalker in NYC. What really gets to me is when "frum" people are outright rude, obnoxious, and contemptuous. Being the Am HaNivchar does NOT mean that you are supposed to act like you're G-d's gift to the world; it means that you have a responsibility to behave like a mentch so that the world knows that Jewish people behave well. When I hear people talk about less-religious or non-Jewish people like they're not even human, it sets my blood to boiling--again, being the Am HaNivchar does not mean that you have the right to look down on the rest of the world!
I understand that no one is perfect. I myself am far from perfect. But maybe because I grew up in "Montana", I have a greater awareness that a frum Jew is always on the spot. I have to behave in such a way that people will think, "Oh, so that's how a religious Jew behaves. That's so nice!" instead of the other way around. I try to behave in such a way that will reflect well upon my G-d and my people.
I know I'm not the only one. It makes me happy when I see other Jews making a kiddush Hashem. I also know that I'm not the only one who is bothered by the behavior of others that reflects badly upon us as a whole. I know that there are people who are dedicated to living their lives in such a way that the world will see and think well of the Jewish people. This is why, despite my shame at the behavior of some of our brethren, I am, and will remain, a proud member of the tribe.
P.S. I haven't forgotten about the promised translation of "Abbaleh". I just haven't had the time to sit down with the Hebrew/English dictionary yet.